Am I a Bad Person?

[Seth]

Am I a bad person for wanting to punch a woman in the face?

I'm having a really hard time controlling myslef when it comes to people acting like they own my personal space. Especially with women.

Everywhere from the produce section at the grocery store, to the standing room only space at a local gay bar. I think its because men know that if they push me, they'll get pushed back or more. But women, feel as if they can get away with anything.

I seriously almost punched a lesbian in the face tonight after she spilled half my drink by walking straight into me and acting as if it was my fault. Obvously I didn't do it as I'm not in jail right now.

I'm having a really hard time understanding that just because I'm a 6'1", 185lb man, that goes to the gym 5-6 days a week, I shouldn't be able to smack up a stupid twat that thinks she can do anything she wants to a man and get away with it... Errr!

I don't hate women... really I don't. I just sometimes wish they would stay away from me with their holier than though attitudes toward men.

[gaydemon]

No, your not a bad person. Well as long as you dont go and punch someone at least.

I know the feeling you are talking about. Were I live there are a lot of rich housewifes with big landrovers. These women go around like they own everything. On the roads, in the shops.. everywhere. They wont stand in a queue like a normal person, and think they can do just about anything.

I dont put up with it anymore, and will give them a proper telling off.. which actually seems to shock them as if none has ever done it before.

I didnt use to even think about it before, mind it or even notice things like that. But as I'm getting older I have less and less patience for anyone. I dont put up with things I would have just a few years ago.

I'm turning into a grumpy old man. But you know, I like it. I wont put up with any shit anymore, I wont let anyone walk over me and I dont hesitate to tell people to fuck off, be it Housewifes, young queens or anyone else. 666

[Paul]

Good for both of you.
Politeness and respect is a two way street with EVERYONE. Not just guys and girls but with guys and guys and girls with girls. Some people just don't get it.
I wouldn't ever actually hit someone but have been known to give people an earfull while looking them directly in the eye.

[dzinerbear]

I'm sick of people — men or women — and their God damned cell phones. In Toronto, they're thinking of making the subways (tube) accessible to cell phones. Oh great, the only place in the city where I don't have to listen to people having stupidly loud conversations.

Yesterday I was riding the streetcar and was subjected to a young girl having a loud conversation in Filipino. Now Filipino is about as easy on the ears as a really bad American Idol (X Factor) audition. And then later on, I had to wait twice as long to get served in a store because the moron ahead of me wouldn't put down his cell phone or stop having his conversation, so the clerk had to keep "interrupting" him.

I think I'm going to start going off on people and their stupid cell phone habits. I won't punch them, but I'm certainly going to start ripping them a new one.

Good thread. Feels great to vent!

Michael

[ManSitesMike]

No you are not a bad person, in fact, you are a good person for taking the high road. It is difficult at times to take the high road, but I do believe in kharma and that woman at the bar who acted that way...she will get it back 3 fold. So...Good job on being the Good Guy.

[basschick]

here we have an extra piece of sidewalk in front of our window. our college aged actor-neighbors feel that is the perfect place to talk on the cell phones. every one of these guys talks to his girlfriend - breakups, first time "i love you"s, issues - his agent, his parents (for more money). we barely know them and yet we know their entire lives. we ask them to talk elsewhere but they forget.

and talk about personal space issues! these are people with no boundaries - they're always brushing against us, cramming on the porch with us, they don't close their doors when it's warm, they have parties on the walkway between the buildings. at least the guy upstairs moved out who used to have exhibitionist sex with his girlfriend loudly as possible at 4 am :D

argh!

[HunkMoneyLuke]

Its the same everywhere, there are always self-centered fuck-tards

[ManSitesMike]

here we have an extra piece of sidewalk in front of our window. our college aged actor-neighbors feel that is the perfect place to talk on the cell phones. every one of these guys talks to his girlfriend - breakups, first time "i love you"s, issues - his agent, his parents (for more money). we barely know them and yet we know their entire lives. we ask them to talk elsewhere but they forget.

and talk about personal space issues! these are people with no boundaries - they're always brushing against us, cramming on the porch with us, they don't close their doors when it's warm, they have parties on the walkway between the buildings. at least the guy upstairs moved out who used to have exhibitionist sex with his girlfriend loudly as possible at 4 am :D

argh!

Hey Basschick, you missed a great opportunity with the exhibitionist upstairs. Since he was having sex outside in the open, then you could have filmed that as content and made some $$$$. hehehe

[AlexManifestMan]

In two weeks in Tokyo I never once saw a person speaking on a cell phone on the subway or in a restaurant. They text message like lightening. On the street they speak in a quiet voice with their hands over the receiver IF they must be on the phone.

There is a whole lot to be said for civility.

[camcruise]

What do you all expect. You all live in the city. You are all on top of one another. But you live there packed like sardines anyway.
Thank God we got out off all that.
Where we live people dont do that. They dont even honk their car horns.

[DonMike]

I was amazed when I first moved to LA when I was grocery shopping how people would walk right in front of you if you were looking at something or ram their cart into yours and not even say excuse me. But the thing is that you notice that and remember that, but rarely do we stop to reflect on the numerous people who held the door open for you or let you skip in front of them in line when you only have two things. People do nice things all the time but it's easy to not really notice. So taking the time to appreciate that helps me deal with the jerks.

My bedroom is about five feet from the balcony of the building behind me and there are a bunch of jerks who live there and and come home drunk at all hours of the night, stand outside (right outside my window) and gab on their phones. One night really late this guy was breaking up with his girlfriend and was going on and on. I almost yelled out my window, "Tell her you'll always have Paris and then hang up!!!"

[dzinerbear]

Where we live people dont do that. They dont even honk their car horns.

OMG ... here in Toronto a honking horn means: Do you need a cab? It will often mean "get out of my way" or "coming through" as someone barrels through an intersection, but most of the horn honking is from cabbies looking for fares.

Michael

[gaybucks_chip]

I was talking about this issue with my friends and I think that somehow there are a LOT more self centered/self-involved people now than there were 25 years ago.

Not sure exactly what it is, but the level of rudeness *everywhere*, whether it's customers in a store, the employees in the same store, people on the street, neighbors, etc... no one seems to have any particular interest in common courtesy or even decency, and personal integrity seems to be almost unknown.

Of course there are exceptions, and I've managed to find a great group of friends to hang out with who seem to be those exceptions... and there are a lot of those people here on the boards, but it is frustrating when it just seems like the majority of people have sort of lost interest in their fellow human beings.

[DonMike]

Oh yeah, people talk about how horrible LA is and how self-centered and phone everyone is. And yeah, if you run in those circles that's all you'll see. But I've also made some of the best friends ever here and met some of the nicest people. There are more jerks in the world now than ever, so that's why it's important to not sneak to their level and to be the person you want to meet on the street.

[Tube4Gay]

I never want to punch anyone, male or female, but one occasion when I want to punch a woman in the face -
When they are in the men's underwear section, and keep getting in the way. Hey, I hang around the women's section and will no doubt get punched in the face if I do.

[Andyr]

Just carry a pin with you and jab the bitch in the fucking ass next time ! .. Its easy to do and easy to throw away and act innocent ;)

As for punching people, hell yeah used to on regular occasions, not so much now likes the law is too fucking hot, you can't even put a fucking cigarette dump out in the street now without getting a fine if caught..

The world is so full of fucking do gooder's now that know jack shit about how it really is, and that is what has fucked our society there is no discipline anymore or manners taught in schools or at home.. hell I used to get a slap over the head for just clanking a spoon on my teeth whilst eating soup ! .. Did it make me a better person ? No, but it taught me manners.. and also taught me to fucking duck and predict when I was going to get hit next and either duck or retaliate in any situation..

When in Rome do as the Romans, is what I say.

[camcruise]

OMG ... here in Toronto a honking horn means: Do you need a cab? It will often mean "get out of my way" or "coming through" as someone barrels through an intersection, but most of the horn honking is from cabbies looking for fares.

Michael


Well honking your horn here means: Your a asshole from out of town.

About a month ago, this woman started honking her horn at someone that was trying to park their car.
About ten people and Tony and I that were walking by all stopped and started yelling at her to shut up!!
You could tell we all scared her to death.
Thats one woman that wont stop here again!!lol

[AnthonyDeAngelo]

we heard the word "shit" in public the other day for the first time since we moved here - that's about as racy as it gets...

people go out of their way to be kind, generous and genuine here - and even the kids say sir to me "yes sir" - "thank you sir" - "excuse me sir"

no boom boxes, thumping low-riders, horn blowers or traffic jams

as far as I'm concerned, our years in Beverly Hills were nothing in comparison to where we are today - but it was a necessary step

and what is with those guys down there anyway - we were just there and they're STILL watering lawns like no tomorrow - HELLO LOS ANGELES - HELLO BEVERLY HILLS - with the worst drought in the state's history - water fountains going everywhere... gardeners watering walks and drives...

lawns of course are important to real estate values - no water, no planet no real estate baby... you're not taking my water! I'll piss in it first - hee hee hee

[XXXWriterDude]

Am I a bad person for wanting to punch a woman in the face?

I'm having a really hard time controlling myslef when it comes to people acting like they own my personal space. Especially with women.

Everywhere from the produce section at the grocery store, to the standing room only space at a local gay bar. I think its because men know that if they push me, they'll get pushed back or more. But women, feel as if they can get away with anything.

I seriously almost punched a lesbian in the face tonight after she spilled half my drink by walking straight into me and acting as if it was my fault. Obvously I didn't do it as I'm not in jail right now.

I'm having a really hard time understanding that just because I'm a 6'1", 185lb man, that goes to the gym 5-6 days a week, I shouldn't be able to smack up a stupid twat that thinks she can do anything she wants to a man and get away with it... Errr!

I don't hate women... really I don't. I just sometimes wish they would stay away from me with their holier than though attitudes toward men.


I don't think you're a bad person, but there does seem to be a lot of anger directed toward women in this message. It's not a gender thing. There are assholes of all genders, not just women. To me it sounds like because you don't think you can hit women, you are interpreting their actions as being intentional or malicious toward you personally in some way, when in reality they probably aren't thinking about you at all. Which might even be worse. I am annoyed by many of the same things here, but I try not to attribute other people's behavior to something like their race, gender or sexual orientation. People can just be idiots sometimes, period. :)

I could be wrong, but if you had been a white person writing this same email about a black person... how would you have interpreted that? Just something to think about perhaps?

[Seth]

I don't think you're a bad person, but there does seem to be a lot of anger directed toward women in this message. It's not a gender thing. There are assholes of all genders, not just women. To me it sounds like because you don't think you can hit women, you are interpreting their actions as being intentional or malicious toward you personally in some way, when in reality they probably aren't thinking about you at all. Which might even be worse. I am annoyed by many of the same things here, but I try not to attribute other people's behavior to something like their race, gender or sexual orientation. People can just be idiots sometimes, period. :)

I could be wrong, but if you had been a white person writing this same email about a black person... how would you have interpreted that? Just something to think about perhaps?

You have some good points there Ken. I think when I posted my original message I was pissy at several specific people who just happened to be women. Its just I rarely have these types of issues with men. Men seem to be a little more respectful of each other. I do think in a lot of ways it does come down to gender. Of course there are always exceptions, but in or society, a woman pretty much knows she can get away with a lot more inappropriate behavior. A man can't be so sure.

As for your comment on the race thing, that's a little too PC for me but I do understand your message.

And just for the record, I don't think anyone can go around hitting people they're annoyed with, regardless of gender. I've been in two physical altercations in my life. One a silly schoolyard fight and the other was truly in self defense. I'm a lover not a fighter :)

[HusbandsSecret]

Am I a bad person for wanting to punch a woman in the face?

I'm having a really hard time controlling myslef when it comes to people acting like they own my personal space. Especially with women.

Everywhere from the produce section at the grocery store, to the standing room only space at a local gay bar. I think its because men know that if they push me, they'll get pushed back or more. But women, feel as if they can get away with anything.

I seriously almost punched a lesbian in the face tonight after she spilled half my drink by walking straight into me and acting as if it was my fault. Obvously I didn't do it as I'm not in jail right now.

I'm having a really hard time understanding that just because I'm a 6'1", 185lb man, that goes to the gym 5-6 days a week, I shouldn't be able to smack up a stupid twat that thinks she can do anything she wants to a man and get away with it... Errr!

I don't hate women... really I don't. I just sometimes wish they would stay away from me with their holier than though attitudes toward men.

a surprising post! and first i thought that's the usual gay woman hater. generally i like women and especially lesbians. but when i read your post the second time, i noticed that is similar to a deep aversion i have against a certain group of people. the situations and the "events" are different, but in a curious way your feelings correspond with my reservations against a certain kind of scene gay guys in the net and real life.

greets,

BRAD :bang: